Sandra Bullock Emotionally Opened Up About How Becoming A Mom Changed Her

Academy Award-winning actress Sandra Bullock has been a Hollywood staple for decades. An intensely private star, the mom-of-two has managed to keep her children out of the spotlight. But she occasionally talks about her journey to motherhood – through adoption – in a candid and honest way. And during one interview, the star exposed the lengths she had to go to just to have a normal family life.

Now these days, Bullock lives in California with her two children, nine-year-old Louis and six-year-old Laila. And she’s currently in a relationship with photographer and former model Bryan Randall, who also has a daughter Skylar. Furthermore, they’ve been together for around five years – and it all started, apparently, thanks to the star’s son.

Yes, because while holding a birthday celebration for Louis, Bullock reportedly hired Randall to take some photos. Now, this was back in 2015 and the pair have reportedly been together ever since. By all accounts, the photographer is said to be a devoted father to all three children. However, the Speed actress herself has remained cagey about their relationship.

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For Bullock, though, arriving at this point, with a blended family including two children of her own, wasn’t easy. Indeed, from a failed marriage and infidelity to two lengthy adoption processes, the star’s path to motherhood was often emotionally fraught. And much of it happened behind closed doors, keeping the public, along with friends and family, in the dark.

Of course, having been in the spotlight for so long herself, that intense secrecy is perhaps understandable. Born in Virginia in 1964, Bullock actually spent more than a decade living in Europe. And after graduating from Arlington’s Washington-Lee High School, she studied drama at East Carolina University. From there, she moved to New York, looking for acting work.

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While in the Big Apple, Bullock took a role in No Time Flat, an off-broadway production. And her performance led to some TV work, most notably getting the lead in the small-screen adaptation of Working Girl. But it was her role in the Sylvester Stallone led Demolition Man that made people sit up and take notice.

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Indeed, a sci-fi action flick set in a future without crime, Bullock played error-prone cop, Lenina Huxley. And the role of the naive, inexperienced officer, coupled with a humorous script, gave Bullock the chance to shine. As we’ll soon find out, it was perhaps the start of Bullock’s love affair with bumbling, comical parts in film.

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Yes, because Huxley, who tries to impress Stallone’s gritty cop, John Spartan, appears to fail at every turn. “Looks like he finally matched his meet,” she exclaims after a Spartan victory. Then she goes on, “ You really licked his ass!” An exasperated Stallone replies, “That’s met his match and kicked… kicked his ass.”

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Following Demolition Man, Bullock leapt to world-wide fame in 1990s action classic Speed. But there was a little fortune at play when both Halle Berry, and later Ellen DeGeneres, didn’t take the role. So promoted to female lead alongside Keanu Reeves and Dennis Hopper, the movie was a hit with audiences and critics alike. And with the film taking over $350 million worldwide, the role of Annie Porter made Bullock a star overnight.

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Playing a plucky passenger forced to drive a bomb-laden bus around Los Angeles, the role showcased a range of Bullock’s talents. Indeed, from comedy to romance, action to drama, her portrayal of Annie Porter covered it all. And from there, the actor quickly established herself as a serious Hollywood player as audiences flocked to her movies. So serious a player, in fact, that Bullock scored her first award nomination just a year later for another film.

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That’s correct, playing lonely transport worker Lucy Moderatz in 1995 romcom While You Were Sleeping, led to a Golden Globes’ nod. And while she lost out as Best Actress on that occasion, it wouldn’t be the last time Hollywood recognized her talent. No, because many nominations would follow.

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So after clocking up the movies in the late 1990s, it would be the 2000s that would be defining for Bullock. In fact, it was her first major film of the new millennium that put her back on the awards map. And believe it or not, it’s actually based on a true story.

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For you see, playing Grace Hart in 2000’s Miss Congeniality earned Bullock a second Best Actress nomination from the Golden Globes. Concerning a real-life FBI agent who goes undercover at a Texas beauty pageant, it was a worldwide hit with audiences. Now firmly established, the star branched into TV in the 2000s, serving as executive producer on ABC sitcom George Lopez.

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But Bullock continued to star in movies as well. And in 2009 she took a role that would see her finally win that Best Actress Golden Globe. But the awards didn’t end there. Starring as Leigh Anne Tuohy in The Blind Side, she also took home the Screen Actor’s Guild and Critics’ Choice awards. What’s more, and most importantly, she bagged the Academy award for the same role.

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Following The Blind Side’s success, Bullock had another banner year in 2013. Starting with female-cop-buddy movie The Heat, the actress starred opposite Melissa McCarthy. And the comedy pairing proved a pretty big hit, taking in over $200 million. And then came Gravity where she was paired with fellow A-lister, George Clooney.

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Now, the thriller sees two astronauts left stranded when their space-shuttle is destroyed. And Gravity opened to critical acclaim as well as box office success in one of the star’s most-nominated movies. From Best Film to actress, director and, of course, special effects, awards season couldn’t get enough of the space-set drama.

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Furthermore, Bullock’s portrayal of Dr. Ryan Stone led to huge praise for her performance. Indeed, Variety gushed that the actor “holds the screen effortlessly once Gravity becomes a one-woman show.” In addition, she projected “a very appealing combo of vulnerability, intelligence and determination that not only wins us over immediately, but sustains attention all the way through.”

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After arguably her career-best performance in Gravity, Bullock moved into animation, voicing the villainous Scarlet Overkill in 2015’s Minions. And the movie saw the actor achieve the highest box office take of her entire career. From there, she joined the all-female ensemble cast of the cheesy Ocean’s Eight. And following the success of that heist flick, she made a somewhat unexpected turn.

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You see, starring in the lead role of the Netflix-produced 2018 horror movie Bird Box saw Bullock give another stellar performance. Playing a survivor of a global suicide outbreak, the flick follows her struggle to keep herself and her kids alive. And once again the star received rave reviews, with her performance dubbed “fascinating and terrifying to watch.”

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But while Bullock’s career has gone from strength to strength, her personal life has been far rockier. For instance, the star dated several of her co-stars including Matthew McConaughey, and even agreed to marry Argo’s Tate Donovan. But she didn’t really settle down until she met a certain reality TV star.

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Yes, and it seems that Bullock’s godson was inadvertently behind the meeting. For the ten-year-old was a big fan of Discovery’s vehicle transformation series Monster Garage, hosted by Jesse James. So the actress arranged for him to take a tour of the show’s set, in 2003. There, it’s said, she met James with whom she began a relationship. But that wasn’t all.

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You’ve guessed it, in 2005 the couple married in California, and Bullock became stepmother to James’ three children. What’s more, during a publicity tour for 2007 film Premonition, the star finally opened up about her new family. “I love those children. My concern and my love for those kids as a co-parent is no less than if I had [them] biologically.”

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However, Bullock’s marriage to James ended in 2010 after his very public admission of infidelity. “There is only one person to blame for this whole situation, and that is me,”James said in a statement.During their time together, though, the couple had started a process that, even after the split, the actress continued with. You see, four years previously, the pair had decided to adopt a little boy.

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And following the couple’s split, Bullock decided to go ahead with welcoming son Louis into her family. Indeed, adopted from New Orleans, she presented the baby boy to the world in 2010, proudly declaring her lone parent status. She told Hello! magazine, “I will be adopting as a single parent. Maybe I needed [the divorce] to happen so that I could be the very best mother to Louis.”

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Then, in 2015, the star once again opened up to the magazine about motherhood. But this time, Bullock candidly described the second adoption process she’d gone through to take in daughter, Laila. And it seems that Louis played a big part in the actor’s decision to add to her family.

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According to Bullock, Louis “spearheaded this whole journey,” as he was taken with the idea of having a younger sibling. But making Laila a permanent part of the family wasn’t easy. “The largest obstacles were privacy and the safety of the child,” the actor revealed to Hello! magazine. And as the infant lived with the family prior to her adoption, the Oscar winner felt an extra responsibility. “[I had] to make sure that… I could keep things quiet and the child protected.” What’s more, that protection required a whole lot of secrecy.

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As Bullock went on to explain, “Given what foster children go through, making them feel safe and stable isn’t always easy.” Subsequently, no one could know that Laila was living with the star, particularly the press. For the actress went on, “From the ruse I had to construct so that Louis didn’t have to lie to his friends… to the stories I constructed for friends and co-workers as to why I was absent all the time, the subterfuge was pretty elaborate.”

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Despite the entire thing almost being blown by paparazzi, the adoption successfully went through. But this emphasis on secrecy, in all likelihood, wasn’t just about press intrusion and pictures of very young children. In fact, Bullock had been victim to more than one stalker, at least one of whom broke into her house. So keeping the process confidential was essential.

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And after a long and stressful journey, Laila officially became Louis’ younger sibling in 2015. In fact, it was the same year that Bullock and Randall met. Furthermore, as she told Hello!, when her son called Laila his sister, she knew she’d made the right decision. For his response brought the actress to tears.

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As Bullock recalled to Hello! magazine, “Towards the end of the process, I remember sitting Louis down. What I wanted to know was, is this the right match?” And the little boy’s answer will melt your heart. “He said, ‘I think so.’ and I said, ‘Why?’ He just said, ‘Because she’s my sister.’ I was just sobbing.”

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But even with that adorable attitude, Bullock revealed that Louis briefly had second thoughts about having another child in the house. “He did ask if [Laila] was going to touch his toys,” she told Hello! magazine. “I told him there was no doubt in my mind that would happen. That gave him some cause to reconsider the whole process but I let him know I’d be there to referee if things got messy.”

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Despite that, though, Louis proved an ideal big brother. According to Bullock, the pair became inseparable from the second they met. As she told Hello! magazine, “He grabbed [Laila] by the hand and dragged her into his playroom the first moment he met her. He’s a wise old soul and often knows more than I give him credit for.”And the lovely older-sibling stuff didn’t end there.

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As Bullock went on to explain to Hello!, “[Louis] knew to be cautious and gentle. “I think he was ready for [Laila] before she even arrived. And he knew exactly what to do as a big brother.” However, as with all siblings, peace and harmony is always temporary, it seems. “Now that time has passed, it’s like the WWE,” the actress added.

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Sadly, however, the lengthy and stressful adoption process appeared to take its toll on Laila somewhat. Yes, talking to In Style magazine in 2018, Bullock revealed that her daughter suffers from PTSD. And the condition, known as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, reportedly stems from paparazzi desperately trying to photograph the little girl.

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However, the Speed star takes the extra parenting challenge all in her stride. As she told Hello! magazine in 2015, “The only thing I am very cautious about is making sure that Louis never feels looked over because Laila needs extra love and care.” Following that, in 2018 the star revealed more about her responsibility to her children.

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Indeed, during an emotional conversation with Today show host Hoda Kotb, Bullock described her priorities. “My kids. Everything is about them being okay, being in school, having what they need […] I don’t work that much any more.” Then, the star quipped, “I keep looking at them going, ‘I got nothing but you!’”

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What’s more, the star revealed that despite the long wait, and difficult journey, she’d found her calling outside acting. “I finally realized, oh, that this is what I was supposed to do when I grew up. Not be an actress. To be a mom. This is my purpose,” she explained. Also, Hoda asked the Oscar-winner if there was a point when she thought she’d never have children.

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Well, the emotional Bullock confessed that as she got into her 40s, motherhood began to feel less likely. But, she said, “The beautiful thing I was constantly told was [that] the perfect child will find you.” Fighting back tears, she went on, “And then Katrina happened in New Orleans and something told me that my child was there.” So what pushed the actress to suddenly speak more in public about her private life?

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For one, she wanted to inspire other women who think that it’s too late to have children. “I hope me telling my story lets people know there’s no end game,” she told the Today show. “It’s amazing to me how we can take away people’s happiness by telling them that this is the box you have to stay in. There is no box.”

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So it seems that Bullock’s long journey has finally brought her happiness. Indeed, as far as her children are concerned, the mom is on cloud nine. As she told Hello! magazine, “I can tell you absolutely, the exact right children came to me at the exact right time.” And although the star is content with her brood, she did tell the publication that she wouldn’t rule out more kids. “I think our family is complete, [but] I’ll be open to whatever comes our way. Never say never.”

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