Kate Hudson Divulged Her Mom Goldie Hawn’s Tips For Co-Parenting Without The Drama

Some might expect actor Kate Hudson’s version of motherhood to be drama-filled. The 39-year-old actress has an eight-month-old daughter, Rani Rose, with her current partner, record label exec and musician Danny Fujikawa, whom she has referred to as the “love of [her] life” on her Instagram page.

Plus, from two of Hudson’s previous serious relationships, she has two more children. Seven-year-old Bingham Hawn came from her four-year relationship with his father, Muse’s lead singer Matthew Bellamy. And, before the British rocker, she and her ex-husband, musician Chris Robinson of The Black Crowes, had their own son, Ryder Russell, who’s now 15.

As such, Hudson co-parents with Fujikawa, Bellamy and Robinson. But, as she revealed on an episode of the podcast Divorce Sucks! With Laura Wasser, there’s little fanfare. And the actress said that she learned how to be drama-free in that department from someone very close to her – her mother, Goldie Hawn.

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In 1968, Goldie Hawn got her big break on a sketch-comedy show called Rowan & Martin’s Laugh-In. And by the next year, she had won an Oscar for her role in the movie Cactus Flower. Since then, she has starred in such flicks as Private Benjamin, Overboard and The First Wives Club.

In the midst of Hawn’s booming Hollywood career, she built a family out of the spotlight. In 1976, she divorced her first husband, then-dancer and future director Gus Trikonis, to marry musician Bill Hudson, whom she met on a cross-country flight from to Los Angeles from New York. Soon after their nuptials, the pair welcomed a son, Oliver.

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Three years later, the couple had Hudson, but, before she turned two, her parents divorced. Hawn’s next serious partner would be a lasting one – she and Kurt Russell started their relationship on Valentine’s Day in 1983, and they remain together today. The actor stepped in to help raise the future star and her brother. The blended family then split their time between California’s Pacific Palisades, and Snowmass in Colorado.

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As an adult, Hudson divulged to Vanity Fair magazine that her biological “father doesn’t know [her] from a hole in the wall.” But Russell had stepped into the role of dad perfectly well. As she told Detour magazine, “Kurt is a savior who came into my life. He’s been there for everything.”

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Hudson shared similarly glowing praise for Hawn with the Associated Press. “Growing up with my mom there was always a sense of fun and it comes down to optimism, as well. When you learn how to be optimistic and wake up in the morning and appreciate things and create that in your brain, I think you start to have an enjoyment of life and it shows,” she said.

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To that end, Hudson told the Daily Mail that her parents encouraged her to chase her dreams. As she recalled, they told her, “You shouldn’t do anything unless you love it.” Still, they felt hesitant about the idea of their daughter pursuing a career in Hollywood, until they realized how much she loved singing along to Flashdance and Annie.

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By the time Hudson graduated from Santa Monica’s Crossroads high school, she knew what she wanted to do – act. So, she turned down her acceptance to New York University in favor of pursuing her career. As such, Russell helped her audition for his 1996 movie, Escape From L.A. However, she didn’t get the part.

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It wouldn’t take long for Hudson to break into the Hollywood scene, though. A small part on the TV show Party of Five gave way to her debut on the silver screen in 1999’s Desert Blue, starring Morgan Freeman. And her role in 2000’s Almost Famous would push her into super-stardom.

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Writer and director Cameron Crowe cast Hudson in Almost Famous, but not as the character she wanted – at least, not at first. The actress originally set to play the part of Penny Lane eventually dropped out of the project. And that allowed Hudson to step into the role of her dreams. She then celebrated with “a nice dance around the kitchen with [her] mother and family,” she said.

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When the movie came out, critics noted how Hudson flourished in the role, and they awarded her handsomely for it. For Almost Famous, she took home the Golden Globe for Best Supporting Actress and she earned a nomination for an Oscar, too. After that, she went on to open such movies as How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, Bride Wars, and Raising Helen.

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Alongside Hudson’s Hollywood career, she has also navigated a handful of high-profile relationships. In May of 2000, she attended a party in New York City where she met Chris Robinson, lead singer of The Black Crowes. The duo hit it off immediately – they decided to move in together a few days after they met.

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By the end of the summer, Hudson had a commitment ring from her beau and, on New Year’s Eve of 2000, they said “I do” in Colorado. In 2001, when the actress took home her Golden Globe for Almost Famous, she thanked Robinson. “You inspire me every day,” she said to her new husband.

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After that, Hudson stepped out of the spotlight for a year based on advice her mom gave her. Indeed, Hawn told her that she should truly enjoy the first year of wedded bliss. In her time off, the newly-married actor told E!, “I learned how much I love providing for my husband – something I will always cherish, even when I’m working.”

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From there, Robinson and Hudson’s relationship continued to blossom – they welcomed a son, Ryder Russell, in January 2004. At that point, the new mom told People magazine that she and her husband had reached a zenith in their union. “We’re sharing something so gigantic now. I think it’s the best we’ve ever felt being together,” she said.

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But things would eventually change between the couple. Two years after they welcomed Ryder, Robinson sought a divorce. He cited irreconcilable differences in the legal filings, although the couple never publicly shared any grievances with one another – and there’s a reason for that.

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As Hudson told Harper’s Bazaar magazine, “For Chris and me, our main focus is, and was, Ryder. And happy parents, happy baby. Therefore, I love Chris to pieces.” This attitude remained, even as the actress went on to date actor Owen Wilson in the midst of her separation from Robinson and, later, Dax Shepard.

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Three years after Hudson’s divorce from Robinson, she found her next great love. The lucky man was Matthew Bellamy, the lead singer of Muse. “You always hear people say, ‘I never thought this would be the person I would end up with,’ but I don’t think you ever really know,” she told InStyle magazine of her relationship with the rocker.

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And yet, the unexpected connection made perfect sense to Hudson. The actor went on to say, “I love that Matthew knows how to express himself. He shows his love. He communicates.” Of course, after her divorce, such strong feelings scared her – but not enough to stop her testing the waters of dating the Muse frontman.

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“In the beginning I felt like, okay, this is going to be heavy. Am I prepared for this? Because it had been a while, and I wasn’t looking for that. But I just couldn’t stay away. I wanted to talk to him and be with him all the time,” Hudson revealed. Their serious connection made it easy for them to take the next steps as a couple – they got engaged in April of 2011. And just three months later, they welcomed a son named Bingham.

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In 2014, though, the couple privately split up. They eventually broke the news to the rest of the world at the end of that year. Hudson didn’t open up about their break-up until the fall of 2015, at which time she gave a somewhat vague explanation as to what had ended her relationship with the rocker.

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Hudson told Allure magazine, “Relationships ending are painful. And you can choose to carry that, or you can choose to reframe it. If Matt and I had a great relationship, we would still be together, but we chose to move on because we had different visions of how we wanted to live our lives.”

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At that time, Hudson said her main focus was her children and building a healthy family dynamic, regardless of her relationships with her exes. Still, she hoped one day she’d find a long-lasting partner, just like her mother had with Kurt Russell. Her stepfather had helped shape and balance her childhood, she said

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“Being someone who has come from a broken family and has a stepfather [Russell], I really benefited from having that very consistent [presence] in my life. And it’s something I am mindful of and want in my life,” Hudson said. Ultimately, she only wanted “to try to create experiences that will be positive for [her] kids,” she said.

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So, Hudson continued the quest to find her perfect partner. She went on to date Dancing With the Stars professional Derek Hough, singer Nick Jonas and DJ Diplo along the way. Then came record label founder Danny Fujikawa, although the pair met long before they started dating. Their initial introduction, in fact, took place when the actor was 23, married to Robinson and pregnant with Ryder.

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So, when Fujikawa and Hudson went on a hike together in 2016, she wrote on Instagram that she “thought [it] was just a hike with a family friend. [But it] turned very quickly into an unexpected first date.” A year later, she celebrated the love that had blossomed. Taking to the social media platform once again, she wrote “[In] our 15th year of knowing each other we were able to open our hearts to each other, to feel so much pure love and it’s been truly incredible.”

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Hudson and Fujikawa have shared many snapshots of their relationship via social media. They’ve also kept fans updated as the couple have adventured around the world together. After that first hike, they trekked from Los Angeles to New York City, Cambodia, Greece and Italy. Then, in April of 2018, the couple shared another exciting update through Instagram.

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“If you’ve wondered why I’ve been so absent on my social channels, it’s because I have never been more sick!” Hudson wrote. But the nausea she had experienced came with a silver lining. Indeed, she was pregnant with her and Fujikawa’s first child together, a baby girl. “And the entire family are crazy excited,” she concluded.

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In October 2018 the couple welcomed their daughter, Rani Rose, into their family. They chose the name, which they pronounce “Ronnie,” in honor of Fujikawa’s late father, Ron. Hudson concluded her social media announcement by sharing that “everyone [was] doing well and happy as can be.”

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That included Hudson’s older sons, Ryder and Bingham, both of whom have spent plenty of quality time with their new baby sister. In sharing a photo of her eldest holding Rani, the mom-of-three wrote, “I’m thankful for love. Unconditional love and that my children embody what it is when one feels loved.”

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Hudson herself has set a solid example in that department, too. She, of course, co-parents Ryder and Bingham with her exes, Robinson and Bellamy, and her partner, Fujikawa. And, on a 2019 episode of Divorce Sucks! with Laura Wasser, she revealed that her own mom taught her to do so with grace.

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First, Hudson confirmed what is clear from her social media posts about her life – she puts her children first. That especially applies to her co-parenting style, which she said she learned while watching her mother navigate the same situation with her father, Hawn’s ex-husband, Bill Hudson.

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Hudson said, “The one thing that I learned from my mom is that no matter what, I never heard a bad word about my father.” Furthermore, the actor said, it irked her to hear other women talking negatively about their children’s dads with little regard for how the little ones might react.

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“When I see my friends talking s*** about their ex-spouses in front of their kids, I get so upset because they don’t recognize how much that affects their child and how resentful their child will become of them,” Hudson said. As such, she, Fujikawa, Robinson and Bellamy all make a great effort to get along.

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And, according to Hudson, they’ve almost done too good a job of forging a strong bond. “It’s funny and we laugh about it. I never thought my life would look like that, but it is what it is. All I care about is happy kids and we all make that the priority,” she explained. And, in some ways, she and her exes have worked together to take Hawn’s advice a step further in order to achieve that goal.

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Most importantly, Hudson ensures that each of the parent’s houses has the same rules. In the case of her and Bellamy, she said, “We find that to be really important for Bing to feel that there’s [a sense of], ‘You’re not going to get away with anything in each other’s house. Mommy and Daddy are on the same page.’”

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Even though Hudson has moved on with Fujikawa, some might wonder if it’s tough or painful to work alongside her exes to raise their sons. To that, the actress said that “time heals.” Essentially, it has to – she, Bellamy and Robinson have children together, after all. And that’s something she considers “more than marriage” in terms of binding them, whether or not they’re romantically linked anymore.

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But Hudson’s respect of that bond – thanks to advice from her Oscar-winning mom – has helped the actor to give her children the stability they need. And that’s even if they don’t have a more traditional family setup. She concluded, “I would like to think that I’m doing the best I can to ensure that my kids feel that the unit is still strong even in divorce. And I hope that’s the right way forward.”

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