Everybody on Earth is experiencing life for the first time, and that means that nobody holds the real secret to success. That also means that no one is ever really sure if they’re going down the right path. Every now and then, however, the world throws up a few warning signs to keep you on track – all you have to do, then, is notice them and consider what they might be saying.
20. You’re always tired
That feeling of fatigue that sets in from pretty much the moment you wake up? Yeah, that’s not normal. And if you’re always tired – even when you think you’re getting enough sleep – then you probably need to start thinking about some lifestyle changes. After all, finding it difficult to get out of bed in the morning isn’t the greatest start to anyone’s day.
19. Someone else is always making your decisions for you
We only have one life, so it’s up to us to figure out how best to use it. And that means not letting anybody else call the shots about what you do with your time. So, if you think that you may just be allowing someone to take the reins when it comes to making your decisions, then wrestle back some control. Your destiny is in your own hands, after all.
18. You’re living your life by what other people might think
Even if you do have a handle on your own decisions, ask yourself whether they’re ever influenced by what others might think of you. If the answer is anything but a resounding “no,” it’s time to take a long, hard look at your life. That doesn’t mean being constantly selfish, however: indeed, sometimes it’s wise to take your loved ones into consideration when considering what to do next.
17. You’re always having to defend and justify your choices
If the decisions you’re making only seem to make sense to you and you alone, that may be a sign that you need to do things a little differently. After all, you shouldn’t have to spend time constantly having to justify every little thing about your life. Unless the reason you’re doing that is because you’re surrounded by people who are way too judgmental, of course. Then, however, it’s on them.
16. You have to lie to other people
If you feel the need to bend the truth enough to embarrass Pinocchio, you may want to reevaluate the path you’re heading down. Perhaps it’s because you don’t feel able to confide in those around you; maybe, however, you’re just plain afraid of the truth. Whatever your reasons for lying to others, though, it’s definitely no way to live.
15. You get sick constantly
Are you constantly getting ill, with no real rhyme or reason behind it? Well, sometimes the cause could be plain old stress, which triggers your immune system. And when said system is already on red alert, it can’t then devote all its attention to fighting off viruses and infections. Yes, your job may literally be making you sick – although it’s best to find out for sure before quitting in a blaze of glory.
14. You’re always playing it safe
Sticking to a routine may feel comfortable, but it sure does drag after a while. Every now and then, in fact, you just need to take a risk to feel alive. And you never know where it might lead – you could find a new hobby, meet someone great or achieve something awesome, for instance. So, if you’re feeling down in the dumps, then get yourself out there and see what life has to offer.
13. You look at everything as an obstacle
There may seem like there’s always a hundred reasons not to do something; if you can find that one reason to do it, though, that may be all you need. And if everything in life seems to be an obstacle to you, then perhaps you should consider tough situations as challenges to overcome rather than as immovable roadblocks.
12. You work hard but don’t see any progress
If you feel like you’re not seeing any signs of progress from all the hard work you’re putting into life, try taking a step back. Indeed, whether you’re at work or at home, sometimes a clear head can improve things dramatically. And figuring out exactly where to focus your finite time, attention and resources can do wonders for your productivity to boot.
11. You’re too busy to take care of yourself
It’s important to make time in your schedule to take care of number one: that is, yourself. After all, if you spend every waking hour working or helping out others, you’re going to get burned out pretty quickly. And that can lead to all kinds of problems, including those affecting your physical and mental health. So, every now and then, you may want to just give yourself some much-needed space.
10. You focus on quantity over quality
Consider whether you’re just trying to do too much in your personal life or at work – in particular, if you’re focusing on the quantity, rather than the quality, of tasks on your plate. And if that’s the case, then take note: doing less but better will invariably leave you more satisfied. So if you feel like you’re just doing the bare minimum to get through as many things as possible, it’s a good idea to take a step back.
9. You think money is always the solution
Having a roof over your head and food on the table will undoubtedly make you more content than going hungry and homeless. But if you’re prioritizing the acquisition of riches at the expense of other aspects of your life, you’ll start to see the downsides. Remember, after all: money can’t buy you happiness.
8. You don’t feel satisfied
The choices you make in life will set you on a course for a certain destination. And if that destination begins to look like one that’s filled with unhappiness and regret, it’s time to change tack. A surefire way to tell which path you’re on, however, is to contemplate whether you’re satisfied right now – and then consider what you can do to achieve satisfaction if not.
7. You have lots of bad habits
Stop and ask yourself whether you have any bad habits. Chances are, you have at least one or two. If you have many such quirks, however, then consider whether any of them could become alienating to others or even dangerous to yourself. And, in the process, you may be able to amend your behavior before it’s too late.
6. You don’t have any goals
It’s essential to have something to work towards. If you don’t, you’ll just drift aimlessly through life, never achieving your potential and never feeling satisfied. Indeed, not having goals isn’t just heading down the wrong path: it’s heading down no path at all. And while figuring out what you want out of your time on the planet isn’t easy, it’ll undoubtedly help you get back on track.
5. You give up on your passion
Maybe you had a goal at some point in your life but, for whatever reason, you had to give up on it. Perhaps you realized that becoming a rock star was a little unrealistic, or a family illness or financial setback stopped you in your tracks. Either way, though, the important thing to remember is that you need to get back on the horse. Passion is what makes us human, after all.
4. You have too much – or too little – confidence
Confidence is a tricky thing to manage, but it’s important to know where the line between too much and too little of it is. If you’re under-confident, for instance, you may start to doubt yourself and what you can achieve. If you’re overconfident, however, then it could affect your relationships with others. Try to strike a balance, then, and you’ll be all set.
3. You have a lot of unfinished projects
Have you ever started something but not seen it through to the end? And then repeated that process several times, until you’re left with nothing but a bunch of half-completed projects? Then life might be trying to give you a warning sign that something’s up. So, instead of spreading your attention too thinly, try reining it in and focusing on one thing at a time until you’re satisfied that task is all done and dusted.
2. You focus on what feels good, not what feels right
Sometimes, the right thing to do isn’t always the easiest or the most fun. Indeed, the fun, easy and feel-good choice may actually be harming you. And while striving for happiness in the short term could seem appealing, it’s worth assessing whether the decisions you make might in fact lead to dissatisfaction with your lot in the future.
1. You don’t respect the people in your life, and they don’t respect you
If there’s not mutual respect among you and your friends, family and co-workers, your interpersonal relationships will likely suffer. And that’s bad news for all aspects of your life. So, if you find yourself surrounded by unreliable individuals you don’t trust, it may be time to bite the bullet and cut some ties. After all, the people in your life are often hugely important to your own mental wellbeing.