Doctors And Nurses Revealed What Happens When A Dad Works Out That The Baby Isn’t Theirs

The doctor and nurses look at one another confusedly, worriedly. They’ve just delivered a newborn – but something’s not quite right about the baby. Namely, the child clearly does not come from the loins of the father who’s holding the new mom’s hand. And when the medical professionals inform the dad of the situation, they’ll never forget his reaction to the news.

No, this isn’t a scene from a movie; nurses, doctors and other medical staff have in fact seen such situations unfold countless times. Now, however, these professionals have taken to Reddit to share their dramatic delivery-room stories. And in some cases, it seems, it became instantly clear that a newborn had a different dad. Yet in others, it apparently took a few more details to reveal the truth.

Either way, it’s obviously not easy for dads to find out that the newborns they’ve been anticipating don’t actually belong to them. And their reactions range from flat-out denial to stunned silence… and occasionally violence against the other man. So here are some of Reddit’s most emotional tales of gestation, labor and delivery – and the drama that ensues when a man realizes that he’s not his baby’s father.

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In this first case, a dad found out that he wasn’t a newborn’s father due to a very subtle detail. This story was actually shared by a NICU nurse via Reddit. And as the nurse recalled, a couple welcomed a baby who came into the world with an abnormality resulting from a faulty gene. Specifically, the child was missing a limb – but was healthy in every other respect.

Yet, as the nurse recounted, the pediatrician still needed to discuss the baby’s future check-ups and treatments with the parents. During that conversation, though, the newborn’s mother just happened to ask what the child’s blood type was. The doctor then replied that it was A positive – which came as a complete surprise to the new father.

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That’s because the baby’s father apparently knew that both he and his wife had O negative blood. So any child they produce would also be type O. But the pediatrician re-checked the newborn’s file and verified that the child was indeed A positive. And as a result of the confusion, medical staff even re-did the test to confirm it’s accuracy.

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The NICU nurse wrote in the post, “There is absolutely no chance that the baby belonged to that man.” The man therefore reportedly left the hospital and stayed away until it came time for the mom and baby to head home. The man then picked his family up – but there was no further information beyond that. The commenter didn’t even reveal whether he stayed with his wife or not.

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The Reddit thread also highlighted another dad who was dealt similar news – but not when his baby was born. On this occasion, you see, the man had apparently gone to the hospital as his daughter was giving birth to her child. Now, the Reddit user who shared this story said that the tale had been passed down from their mother, who had served as a nurse in the labor ward at the time. And at the hospital in question, the staffers reportedly used a white board to keep track of their patients’ vital statistics.

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Of course, the hospital staff couldn’t use patients’ names alongside their information, as this would be a violation of privacy. So the board simply listed I.D. numbers and, beneath that, some pertinent medical information, such as the person’s blood type. And a new mom on the ward – the only woman there at the time – had been recorded as having B positive blood.

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As the patient’s father walked by the white board, then, he scanned his daughter’s information. And seeing her blood type stopped him dead in his tracks, according to the Reddit user’s mother. The new grandfather then reportedly asked one of the medical professionals on the ward to confirm the information. They said yes, his daughter did indeed have B positive blood.

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The man was reportedly left stunned. His wife – the patient’s mother – had A negative blood, while his was O positive. And together, those two types could never create a B positive baby. In other words, the man found out that his daughter wasn’t actually his biological offspring – and he discovered it as she went into labor with his grandchild.

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The timing of a birth can also raise eyebrows. For instance, another Reddit user shared a paternity scandal from their time working on the labor wards. One October, they said, a mom-to-be came in with early labor pains – and the baby’s father worried that it wouldn’t be safe to deliver the child so soon.

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The medical expert then tried to talk the dad down. They in fact explained that the mom would likely deliver a healthy baby, as she was 37 weeks pregnant – which isn’t considered premature in the medical community. The hospital staffer wrote on Reddit, “He wouldn’t believe it and wanted more explanation.” Eventually, though, the expectant father asked when his partner would have gotten pregnant if she was that far along.

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Counting backwards 37 weeks, the Reddit user then reportedly estimated that the baby would have been conceived in January. And with that, the father-to-be realized something. He said, “I was out of town for all of January.” Understandably, he then stormed out of the hospital and left the mom-to-be “screaming in distress and pain.”

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In a related area, plenty of stories exist where military spouses realized that they were facing an impossible timeline for conception. Particularly when their overseas deployments are taken into consideration. For example, one ultrasound technician for the armed services recalled via Reddit that a woman and her husband came in for a scan during the first trimester of her pregnancy. Then the expectant parents started sharing more information with the medical professional.

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The ultrasound technician wrote, “As I was scanning and talking with them, it came out that the husband had only just come back from his deployment.” At first, though, everything seemed above board. The tech even said that the mom’s last recorded period “lined up with the dad’s return from his deployment.”

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Yet once the ultrasound screen lit up, the technician could see that the fetus in the image wasn’t ten weeks old. Instead, the expert estimated that the growing baby had been in gestation for about 22 weeks – more than double the time-frame given by the parents. Measurements of the child’s abdomen and head circumference then reportedly confirmed the imaging tech’s suspicions.

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But the story didn’t end there. The ultrasound technician wrote that once those measurements come in, the baby’s gestational age then pops up on the screen. Knowing an awkward conversation would no doubt follow, though, the imaging expert tried to block the father’s line of vision. Yet it was to no avail. “The dad glimpsed it and asked what it was,” the Redditor wrote. At that point, then, the tech apparently suggested that the couple speak to their doctor and got out of a potentially explosive situation.

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In some cases, though, it’s actual physical traits that give away a baby’s true parentage. One NICU nurse even shared a method for helping a dad tell if a child isn’t his. The medical professional wrote on Reddit, “If you have a chin dimple, then one of your parents has to have a dimple. It’s always interesting when we get a baby with a chin dimple and neither parent has a discernible chin dimple.”

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Dads might also be advised to request paternity tests if their supposed babies come into the world with Mongolian spots, the Redditor said. These birthmarks are visible in the upper layers of a child’s skin and are caused when pigmentation has gotten stuck in its lower layers. The resulting spots can appear blue, black, greenish or gray.

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Typically, Mongolian spots cause no harm to the baby who has them. They can, however, cause a rift between expectant parents if their child is born with these particular birthmarks. And that’s because the spots tend to appear in babies who have pigmented skin. Simply put, then, the skin condition occurs most commonly in non-white infants.

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And a children’s infectious diseases doctor and labor ward assistant shared via Reddit how a couple had welcomed a remarkable set of triplets. Both parents were white – but one of their babies had an obvious Mongolian spot. At first, the practitioner said, staff didn’t see it as too unusual because “[the spots] do occur in very rare situations for white infants.”

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As the medical professional noted, though, even more rare is seeing “triplets with different fathers.” So the hospital staff initially ignored the signs that one child might not have the same dad as the others. When the trio of newborns returned to an adjacent clinic for a check-up, however, word apparently spread that the baby with the Mongolian spot just didn’t look like the other two siblings.

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As the physician put it, “The infant with the spot has obviously darker skin and characteristics found in typically Indian or Middle Eastern babies.” This realization forced the babies’ mother to reveal a secret. Namely, that she and one of her colleagues had had a one-night stand while on a business trip together.

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The labor ward assistant wrote, “[The affair] was never spoken of, and [the mom] assumed she was in the clear until the babies were born.” The triplets’ father, though, couldn’t ignore the elephant in the room. And as a result, the couple moved into separate homes after he realized that he couldn’t have fathered all three babies.

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According to one Redditor who worked as a nurse, however, the most common sign that a dad isn’t a newborn’s father is the baby’s skin color. The nurse shared, “Often, the answers are determined within about 15 seconds after birth. Black baby and white parents are the most common true surprise.”

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In fact, the message board practically overflowed with stories that seemed to corroborate this statement. One Redditor, for instance, shared a story on behalf of their partner, who is a trained midwife. The midwife had apparently recalled working with a white couple who’d just had a healthy baby boy. When the dad left the room, though, the mom started talking.

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The new mother asked the midwife, “Is [the baby] black?” The midwife was shocked, responding, “What?! Could he be?” She then checked the infant’s skin, especially in the telltale areas where it might be more pigmented. And, lo and behold, the medical professional discovered that the baby was indeed black.

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But then the new mom made a final request. She reportedly asked the midwife to tell the man who thought he was the father that the baby was actually black. Ultimately, though, the midwife refused to fulfill such a duty. The Redditor concluded, “I don’t know what happened in the end. The baby was much loved, that’s the main thing.”

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Other situations, however, came with a bit more tension. Another Reddit user shared a tale from their father, who had worked as a paramedic for more than two decades. During this time, the Reddior said, his father picked up a mom-to-be who had gone into labor. He then drove both her and her husband to the hospital.

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The ambulance, however, didn’t make it to the hospital in time. Which meant that the woman ended up delivering her newborn in the back of the vehicle. The Reddit user then revealed, “My dad said that the baby came out fairly dark, considering both parents were white.” Then things got really awkward. The paramedic even apparently said it “was the single quietest moment of his life.”

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Of course, some cases cause even more tension, according to the medical staff who deal with them. A Redditor shared one such tale from their cousin, who worked as a nurse. They reportedly helped as an African American couple welcomed a baby together. While the mom pushed, though, the practitioner felt that something wasn’t right.

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Specifically, the Redditor wrote, “[The nurse] realized the baby was half-white [while it was] coming out.” Making matters worse, the dad-to-be had no idea. Yet when the medical staffer “took the baby fully out, the man started actually freaking out since his wife had obviously cheated on him, and this was most certainly not his child.”

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Even more upsetting was the fact that the new mother couldn’t tell her husband who the father was – as she’d apparently been unfaithful more than once. The nurse didn’t know what happened with the couple in the end, however. Although the expectant dad “freaking out” may have signaled that the relationship was over.

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And then, of course, there are cases where the drama and tension come to a head, leading to physical altercations. One hospital employee told the story of a young married couple, both of whom were white. The wife gave birth to a black baby, however, completely shocking her husband.

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The hospital staffer shared, “The wife did not even warn [her partner] of the possibility that it would not be his kid.” And, as if that weren’t difficult enough for the husband to deal with, things then took a dramatic turn. Yes, someone else turned up to see the new mom: her boyfriend. Then, once the real father had arrived, the woman declared that she wanted to be with him instead.

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Upon hearing this news, the husband went off, according to the hospital staffer. Scarily, he “[got] violent and [started] beating up both of them.” Eventually, in fact, the police came to arrest him – but the whole thing caused a “huge scene,” the Redditor explained. Plus, they added, it was “a horrible way to find out that your spouse has been cheating on you.”

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And, finally, there are some dads who fail to take the hint that a newborn isn’t actually theirs. One Redditor is the former employee of a urologist who’d had plenty of patients in for vasectomies. One man came in for the procedure, for instance, and, at the man’s three- and six-month check-ups, the doctor found that the surgery had worked perfectly.

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Two years later, though, the man reappeared in the office “ranting and raving” about how the urologist hadn’t performed the vasectomy properly. He knew this, he said, because his wife was currently pregnant. So the doctor brought him in for a semen analysis. And sure enough, the procedure had held up: he had zero chance of fathering a child.

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But when the doctor told the father this, he didn’t put two and two together. Instead, he and his wife angrily left the physician’s office. The Redditor wrote, “The wife [stuck] to her story that she would never cheat on her husband, and the husband [was] in complete denial that she’d ever lie about that.” So sometimes, it seems, clues go unnoticed by expectant fathers… But never by the doctors or nurses who remember these wild stories for years.

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