This Bride Wore A Black Wedding Dress On Her Big Day – And She’s Kickstarted A New Gothic Trend

When you think of weddings, what images do you picture? Maybe a large elaborate church with throngs of excited guests inside. Perhaps a horse-drawn carriage or a limousine carrying a beautiful bride in a traditional white dress. Indeed, the pale wedding gown has become one of the iconic images of wedding days.

That’s so much the case that any deviation from the white bridal gown tends to raise eyebrows. With this in mind, you can imagine social media’s response when online blogger Sophie Cachia did just that. But surely simply wearing an alternative wedding color wouldn’t cause too much of a stir, right?

Well, Cachia didn’t choose just any palette for her big day. If she had selected a similarly bright tone, then her dress might not have made as much impact as it did. Instead, the blogger went with a color that’s perhaps more widely associated with other, less celebratory, occasions.

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In fact, Cachia chose a shade on the complete opposite end of the color scale. On her wedding day, the bride walked down the aisle in a black bridal gown. But she wasn’t the only one wearing a dark outfit. Both Jaryd, the blogger’s husband, and her bridesmaids also donned matching hues.

Although people see black as a formal color, they also associate it with more sombre occasions. So how did the internet react to seeing a popular blogger like Cachia disregard bridal tradition? As it turns out, people admired her statement. And she has a very good reason for choosing a black dress.

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However, it’s not the first time that the 29-year-old Australian has been in the spotlight. Cachia, in fact, first found fame in 2013 with a blog called The Young Mummy (TYM) which gained significant popularity. Although it’s branched out since, initially the blogger’s trials and tribulations as a mother were the subjects of her musings.

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The parenthood podcast Australian Birth Stories also spoke to Cachia regarding that subject. During the conversation, the blogger revealed that doctors diagnosed her with polycystic ovarian syndrome (P.C.O.S.) when she was 17 years old. Among other things, this hormone disorder can make it difficult for the sufferer to get pregnant.

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As a result, physicians informed Cachia that she likely faced low odds having children. However, following a course of acupuncture she fell pregnant just months later. And while that was good news in itself, she faced some physical challenges while both carrying a child and giving birth. To begin with, the expecting mother suffered debilitating morning sickness.

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Nevertheless, Cachia endured and gave birth to her first child, a son called Bobby. In addition, she later beat the odds a second time by having a daughter named Florence. Her conception was more challenging, however, taking eight months. But The Young Mommy kept social media followers updated on the pregnancy.

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Since Cachia’s early blogging days her fame has increased, and now she’s active on several websites. An Instagram account, an online blog-shop also called CACHIA and the original TYM are among the social media celebrity’s platforms. It’s a lot for a wife and mother-of-two, but the blogger attributes her success to one very simple thing.

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“I have unequivocally been myself,” Cachia told the Business Chicks website when they questioned her about the blog’s success in 2017. “Now, while that has morphed over the years and as a person, as a mother, as a working woman, that has evolved. I still have been nothing but the real Sophie that exists in everyday life.”

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“From what I can gather,” Cachia continued, “[TYM has] provided a growing number of people with a relatable face that they can come to for a laugh, a cry and a ‘Oohhh, that baby is so cute.’” So what led the blogger to choose a black wedding dress for her special day?

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The western white bridal gown tradition we know of today is actually a fairly recent one in historical terms. Things were very different in medieval times, for example, when marriage was less about love and more political. At least, that was largely the case in wealthier families and the upper echelons of society.

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Indeed, when a couple married they were really merging businesses, families or representing alliances between nations. As a result, weddings were occasions for the bride and groom to show off the wealth of their stock. That meant expensive fabrics in vibrant colors, so white wasn’t an oft-seen shade.

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There was one monarch who opted for bridal white, though: then-princess Philippa of England. For her marriage to Eric of Pomerania in 1406 the royal wore a pale dress. In addition, a cloak of white silk and expensive furs complimented her attire. But the color choice was an unusual decision.

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In fact, the next white royal wedding wasn’t until that of Mary, Queen of Scots, over a century later. She wore the shade for her marriage to Francis II, who was Dauphin of France at the time, in 1559. Her choice was unexpected not just because of the color, but also due to its associations for her future husband’s nation.

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At the time of Mary’s wedding, French citizens actually wore white to pay their respects to recently-deceased queens. However, the fact that it was the royal’s favorite color was the source of her decision. Besides a few instances of white weddings, then, the bridal gown’s shade varied with the brides themselves.

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For instance, Cachia’s wedding dress wouldn’t have looked out of place in Scandinavia, where black was all the rage. It was Queen Victoria who popularized white weddings as we know them following her marriage to her husband, Prince Albert, in 1840. Honiton lace also decorated the edge of her white bridal gown.

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Subsequently, publications spread images of the popular monarch’s oufit far and wide, implementing a new status quo. Queen Victoria’s preferences convinced other brides that white was the fashionable color of choice for a wedding dress. And then it became tradition, in some cases, for initially misinterpreted reasons.

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For instance, the broad belief that bridal gowns are white to symbolize chastity isn’t entirely accurate. This association has certainly worked its way into the public’s consciousness over time, but that wasn’t initially the case. Blue is actually the traditional color of purity, hence its association with the Virgin Mary.

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While white recently became a wedding color, black has long been associated with mourning departed loved ones. Black’s a formal shade ? take the term black tie event, for example ? but it’s also a common funerary color. Western civilizations have used it to represent loss as far back as ancient Rome and perhaps even earlier.

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Mourning traditions reached their peak in Victorian times, which again might be rooted with Queen Victoria. When Prince Albert died in 1861, the monarch became renowned for her black grieving attire. In fact, she gained the moniker Widow of Windsor partly because she wore the color daily until she passed away.

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Yet some celebrities have eschewed the white tradition in favor of the elegance of a black bridal dress. Sarah Jessica Parker, perhaps best known as Carrie Bradshaw on TV series Sex and the City, did just that. She stunned the general public with an elegant black bridal gown for her 1997 marriage to Matthew Broderick.

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Shenae Grimes-Beech, the Canadian actress who played 90210’s Annie Wilson also wore black for her 2013 wedding to Josh Beech. Vera Wang designed the beautiful dark gown, and it matched her groom’s black suit well. And a fellow Canadian made a similar decision and opted for an ebony palette for their big day, too.

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Indeed, musician Avril Lavigne chose a Gothic-looking aesthetic for her 2013 wedding to Nickleback singer Chad Kroeger. Her dress of choice was a black sweetheart tulle gown by Monique Lhuillier. And it wasn’t just her dress that was black, either. She also carried a black rose bouquet, while the groom wore an entirely black suit.

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So perhaps Cachia’s alternative wedding dress is becoming more common, at least with celebrities. Nevertheless, the occasion certainly got people talking, and not just about the bridal gown. The couple also stamped their distinct personalities on the whole occasion. Indeed, everything from the bridesmaid dresses to the wedding food was refreshingly non-traditional.

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For example, the guests had no idea they were attending a wedding. The couple invited friends and family to the 2015 event under the guise of Cachia’s birthday celebration. They must have been surprised when they arrived and saw the blogger and her bridesmaids dressed in their non-traditional splendor.

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On the subject of the bridesmaids, Cachia had eight of them: five friends and her three sisters. Of course, they all wore outfits to compliment the bridal gown. They each, in fact, donned identical black sheath dresses with high necklines. The bridesmaids then accessorized with gladiator heels and ebony nail polish.

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Cachia even arranged an unconventional approach for her bridesmaid’s bouquets, which are traditionally filled with flowers. Instead of petals laden with color, the blogger chose simple flower-less bouquets of green. The bride’s bunch was the only one with any blooms, which featured a selection of red and purple blossoms.

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Jaryd, Cachia’s husband, continued the Australian Gothic theme with his departure from the traditional black suit and tie. In its place he sported a black-trimmed maroon velvet blazer over a patterned shirt. A black bow tie completed the groom’s upper body apparel, while black leather-style pants added to the alternative outfit.

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Cachia decided that the traditional route wasn’t for her during the early planning stages of the wedding. Although she looked at many white bridal gowns, none of them seemed to suit her personal tastes. As a result, she requested the aid of Anthony Montesano, a fashion designer, to create a bespoke dress.

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Montesano works under the pseudonym Signor Mont Couture to design apparel with a European aesthetic. The bride-to-be wanted something that cut an impressive form and the designer was happy to oblige. It thrilled Cachia to wear the black lace dress that he came up with for her wedding day.

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The end result was exactly what Cachia was after, as she revealed on an Instagram post in 2015. “You are so talented,” the blogger said of Montesano. “I’d already give anything to be able to go back to this day! There was NOTHING I’d change about my look.” Clearly, the dress was a succes.

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Cachia’s bridal dress was an impressive design indeed, and while it wasn’t traditional, it was definitely memorable for it. The intricate gown’s details were all beaded, following the arms down into a fine sheer lace sleeve. Meanwhile, the torso design was sheathed at the back with a plunging V-shaped neckline composing the front.

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But what did the lower half of the impressive black wedding dress look like? Well, it ended in a beautiful fishtail train, wrapping-up Cachia’s request for a striking silhouette. And no outfit would be complete without chic footwear. With this in mind, the bride wore a sparkling pair of black Jimmy Choo shoes.

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In 2016, Huffpost reported Cachia’s opinion of the dress. “It’s bold, it’s sexy, it’s daring,” she said. “I find wearing black to be extremely striking, hence why it’s my go-to choice of color to wear on any occasion.” She then also revealed the reason behind her decision to the media.

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Cachia said that her decision to wear black was just because that’s what she was most comfortable in. “I didn’t want anything traditional,” she told U.K. newspaper the Daily Mail in 2016. “Everyone has a wedding. Why does everyone have to do everything the same? There’s no rule book.”

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The blogger continued, “I didn’t do it for attention, or to be known as the girl who wore a black dress on my wedding day. I just wanted to wear a dress I think is beautiful. We didn’t do it for anyone but us. We wanted to wear what we wanted to wear, simple as that.” So that’s exatly what they did.

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The joyous occasion was such a memorable day, but there was one last nuptual-related surprise for Cachia. “I was lucky enough to have the extremely talented [Montesano] make my black wedding dress back in 2015,” the blogger revealed in 2017. “He surprised us with this gorgeous number for [our daughter] Flossy using all of mommy’s left-over material.”

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“So special, and one to cherish forever in our household,” Cachia elaborated. Indeed, Florence’s mom was so pleased with the gift that she thinks it may just become a family heirloom. “My little princess,” the blogger concluded, “you can pass this little number on to your baby girl one day.”

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